Psychology of BDSM and emotional involvement is a very large topic. I am a practicing "domme" for more than 12 years, and I know how difficult it is to find a person who knows how to play and match with you. I can keep my profession as a mistress for a long time and never feel bored. If my partner doesn't know how to do when you are in a role position, for example if you don't know you are top or bottom then the session will not so smooth. With my experience I can do both side, but the bottom side for me just play with the people who know the trick to play, this is very important for BDSM session.
 I can enjoy to tying up my submissive, and executing Japanese rope bondage for instance, to make up a sensual game. I can get into some spanking depending on that person if they know the trick how to start or how to stop.
I have long wanted to include an advice column to couples who have an active interest in BDSM as part of their relationship. How do we love and at the same time engage in what sometimes can be hard domination and sometimes some serious pain yet still feel the excitement of our lover's feelings. So, this page I make for the person who want to play with their girl friend or them wife or lover. I hope it can help you a lot, but the best way to learn is to participate in some real time sessions. So, i recommend that you might choose come to meet me and feel my special hand first. One more important when we start your session you should put your heart too, your partner can feel everything you enjoy or not enjoy, I always check reaction of my partner, I can feel you every time when I play. I try to study what my slave is about. Where his (or her) head is). It is not so difficult, open your mind.. my slave. You are ready to take the first steps? You know you want to. Be like me and take the plunge. Your life will change, and you will be happier with yourself and your partner too.